Questions to ask your friends
You know their coffee order. Do you know what they're still figuring out?
Don't read a list out loud. Let SEEK guide the conversation: it goes deeper when you want, lighter when you need, and you can always pass.
Start with your friend →① EASY No vulnerability required.
- What's something you're enjoying lately?
- What's the best thing you've eaten this month?
- If today had a title, what would it be?
- What's a small thing that always makes your day better?
- What's the most useless skill you have?
- What did you want to be when you were eight?
- Which app on your phone would embarrass you most?
- What's a hill you'll happily die on, even though it doesn't matter?
- What could you talk about for an hour with no preparation?
- What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
- Where would you go this weekend if time and money were no problem?
- What's a song you'll never skip?
- What's something you're looking forward to?
- What was your first job, and what did it teach you?
- What's the worst haircut you've ever had?
- What's our funniest disaster?
- What's the best thing about where you grew up?
- How did we actually become friends?
- What's a trip we should take before we're too old?
② CURIOUS A little more about you.
- What's something people often get wrong about you?
- What's a small decision that changed a lot in your life?
- What's a compliment you still remember?
- What are you secretly competitive about?
- What's something you changed your mind about in the last few years?
- What's a tradition you'd like to start?
- What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- What does a perfect ordinary day look like for you?
- What's a rule you live by that you made up yourself?
- Who has influenced you most without knowing it?
- If we swapped lives for a day, what would surprise you most?
- What's the last thing you learned just because you were curious?
- What's something you think I'm better at than I realise?
- What do you think we'll be like as old people?
③ PERSONAL Stories that shaped you.
- What experience changed the way you see life?
- When did you last feel really proud of yourself?
- What's something you work hard on that nobody sees?
- What does home mean to you now?
- What's a lesson you had to learn twice?
- What would you do more of if nobody was watching?
- What's a question you wish someone would ask you?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What's a risk you took that you're glad about?
- What's something about me you still don't understand?
④ DEEP The things still in progress.
- What is something you're still figuring out about yourself?
- What do you need more of right now, but don't ask for?
- What's a belief you hold that you're not sure you still believe?
- What part of your past do you want people to understand better?
- What's a strong opinion you hold that most people around you don't?
- What does being loved look like to you, in practice?
- When have you felt that I wasn't really listening?
- What's one thing you wish we did differently when we disagree?
⑤ BRAVE The things you avoid.
- What's something you've been afraid to say?
- What's something you need to forgive yourself for?
- What's something you rarely tell people when you first meet them?
- What's a question you're scared to ask me?
- Is there something between us that we've never talked about?
- What would you regret not saying if this was our last conversation?
- What's something I do that hurts you more than I realise?
- What's a conversation we keep avoiding?
- What's a promise one of us made that hasn't been kept?
- What do you need from me that you're not getting?
- When did you need me and I wasn't there?