Questions to ask someone new
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Start with someone new →① EASY No vulnerability required.
- What's something you're enjoying lately?
- What's the best thing you've eaten this month?
- If today had a title, what would it be?
- What's a small thing that always makes your day better?
- What's the most useless skill you have?
- What did you want to be when you were eight?
- Which app on your phone would embarrass you most?
- What's a hill you'll happily die on, even though it doesn't matter?
- What could you talk about for an hour with no preparation?
- What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
- Where would you go this weekend if time and money were no problem?
- What's a song you'll never skip?
- What's something you're looking forward to?
- What was your first job, and what did it teach you?
- What's the worst haircut you've ever had?
- What brought you here today?
- What's the best thing about where you grew up?
② CURIOUS A little more about you.
- What's something people often get wrong about you?
- What's a small decision that changed a lot in your life?
- What's a compliment you still remember?
- What are you secretly competitive about?
- What's something you changed your mind about in the last few years?
- What's a tradition you'd like to start?
- What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- What does a perfect ordinary day look like for you?
- What's a rule you live by that you made up yourself?
- Who has influenced you most without knowing it?
- What's a question you'd love to be asked when you meet someone?
- What would your closest friend say is your best quality?
- What's the last thing you learned just because you were curious?
③ PERSONAL Stories that shaped you.
- What experience changed the way you see life?
- When did you last feel really proud of yourself?
- What's something you work hard on that nobody sees?
- What does home mean to you now?
- What's a lesson you had to learn twice?
- What would you do more of if nobody was watching?
- What's a question you wish someone would ask you?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What's a risk you took that you're glad about?
- What do people usually ask you first, and what do you wish they asked instead?
④ DEEP The things still in progress.
- What is something you're still figuring out about yourself?
- What do you need more of right now, but don't ask for?
- What's a belief you hold that you're not sure you still believe?
- What part of your past do you want people to understand better?
- What's a strong opinion you hold that most people around you don't?
⑤ BRAVE The things you avoid.
- What's something you've been afraid to say?
- What's something you need to forgive yourself for?
- What's something you rarely tell people when you first meet them?