Questions to ask your child
Better questions than "How was school?" Tracks for kids and for teens.
Don't read a list out loud. Let SEEK guide the conversation: it goes deeper when you want, lighter when you need, and you can always pass.
Start with your child →For kids (5–12)
① EASY No vulnerability required.
- What was the best part of your day?
- If you had a superpower for one day, what would you do with it?
- If you were the parent for a day, what rules would you make?
- What's the silliest thing you can think of right now?
- If our family was an animal, which one would it be?
② CURIOUS A little more about you.
- What's something that made you feel brave?
- Who is someone kind at school, and what did they do?
- What's something you learned this year that you're proud of?
- What's your favourite memory of us together?
③ PERSONAL Stories that shaped you.
- What's something that worries you sometimes?
- What do you wish grown-ups understood?
- What makes you feel really loved?
- What's a mistake you made that turned out okay?
④ DEEP The things still in progress.
- Is there something you want to tell me but you're not sure how?
- What could I do that would make it easier to talk to me?
For teens (13–17)
① EASY No vulnerability required.
- What was the best part of your day?
- If our family was an animal, which one would it be?
- What's the funniest thing that happened at school this week?
- What are you into right now that I probably don't get?
- What do I do that embarrasses you most?
② CURIOUS A little more about you.
- What's something you learned this year that you're proud of?
- What's the most overrated thing adults care about?
- Who do you look up to right now, and why?
③ PERSONAL Stories that shaped you.
- What do you wish grown-ups understood?
- What makes you feel really loved?
- What's a mistake you made that turned out okay?
- How are you different from who you were a year ago?
- What's something hard that you handled on your own?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
④ DEEP The things still in progress.
- Is there something you want to tell me but you're not sure how?
- What do you want me to trust you with?
⑤ BRAVE The things you avoid.
- What's one thing I could do that would make talking to me easier?